Can I Get a Divorce Without My Spouse Agreeing?

Divorce is hard enough when both people want it. But what if your spouse refuses to sign the papers or even talk about it?
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Maybe you’ve spent the last hour scrolling Google or even asking ChatGPT this exact question, trying to figure out if you’re stuck. The short answer? In most cases, you’re not, but how you move forward depends on where you live and how your spouse responds. Let’s walk through it step-by-step, in plain English.

Step 1: Understand the Basics — “No-Fault” Divorce

Most places in North America have no-fault divorce laws, meaning you don’t have to prove your spouse did anything wrong. You can file based on irreconcilable differences, separation, or breakdown of the marriage.
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That means your spouse doesn’t have to “approve” the divorce for it to move forward—they just have to be officially notified.

Step 2: Serving the Papers (Even if They Avoid You)

You must legally serve your spouse with divorce papers. If they’re avoiding service:

• Hire a process server to track them down
  
• Request substituted service (serving another adult at their home, mailing, or even publishing in a newspaper)
  

Once served, they have a set time to respond, often 20–30 days.

Step 3: What Happens If They Don’t Respond

If your spouse doesn’t respond in time, you may be able to get a default divorce judgment. That means the court can grant the divorce without their input.
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This can address:
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• Ending the marriage
  
  
• Custody arrangements
  
  
• Division of property
  
  
• Support orders
  

Step 4: Contested vs. Uncontested Divorce

If your spouse does respond but disagrees on custody, property, or support, the divorce becomes contested. That means:

• Negotiations or mediation, or
  
• A court trial, where a judge makes the final decision
  

It’s slower and more expensive, but your spouse still can’t stop the divorce from eventually happening.

Step 5: Get Legal Help Early

Even “simple” divorces have paperwork and deadlines that trip people up. A family lawyer can:
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• Handle serving your spouse
  
  
• Prepare default judgment requests
  
  
• Represent you in contested hearings
  
  
• Protect your custody and property rights
  

Example Scenario

Alex filed for divorce after separating from his spouse for over a year. She refused to sign anything and ignored all calls. With his lawyer’s help, Alex got a court order for substituted service and the divorce was finalized without her participation.

Bottom Line

In most cases, you can get divorced without your spouse’s agreement—but you need to follow the right legal process. If they avoid paperwork or contest issues, it can take more time and effort.

Need Help Starting?

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FAQ 

Q: Can my spouse refuse to divorce me?
A: In most places, no. They can delay the process if they contest issues, but they can’t prevent the divorce.
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Q: How long does a divorce take if my spouse won’t cooperate?
A: It depends on your location—some default divorces take a few months, while contested cases can take over a year.
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Q: Can I get a divorce if I can’t find my spouse?
A: Yes, but you’ll need court permission for substituted service or alternative notice.